FREEDOM From Narcissistic Abuse
By Will Perry
The Narcissistic Boss
And How To Survive
The Narcissistic Boss.
Having a narcissistic boss can be tough. But having a narcissistic boss when you have low self-esteem can create a personal hell.
Narcissistic bosses often have an inflated sense of self-importance, a lack of empathy, and a need for admiration. They may also have a tendency to take advantage of others for their own gain. Not a great model for a boss. In fact they act more like a child than a leader.
Yet for someone with low self-esteem, working for a narcissistic boss can be a hugely challenging experience. They may struggle with feelings of inadequacy, insecurity, they may find it difficult to assert themselves and to speak up when necessary.
They may also be more likely to accept blame and take responsibility for problems, even when they are not at fault. Perfect for a boss that likes to blame others!
One of the biggest challenges of working for a narcissistic boss is dealing with their constant need for validation and attention. Narcissistic bosses often expect their employees to praise and admire them and they may become angry or dismissive if they do not receive the validation they feel they deserve. This is tough for anyone to deal with, yet it is especially difficult for an employee with low self-esteem to navigate, as they may feel pressure to give the boss the validation they crave, even if it means neglecting their own needs and wants.
Another challenge is that narcissistic bosses usually lack empathy and may not be able to understand or relate to the emotions and needs of their employees. This can make it extremely difficult for an employee with low self-esteem to communicate their needs and wants effectively, often leading to feelings of frustration, resentment and stress.
It's also important to note that narcissistic bosses may have a tendency to manipulate their employees. They may take advantage of their employees' insecurities, using them to their own advantage, which can make it incredibly difficult for an employee with low self-esteem to stand up for themselves, set boundaries or even feel like their concerns have been heard.
To cope with a narcissistic boss, it is important to set boundaries and communicate your needs and wants clearly.
It's important to remember that you have a right to be treated with respect and that you are not responsible for the behaviour of your boss.
You’re On Your Own.
An added difficulty for the employee with low self-esteem is that if they seek the support of colleagues or friends, they might find that they are the only ones who perceive their boss in this difficult way and that can be extremely isolating.
The reason for the difference of experiences between the colleagues is down to the employees low self-esteem. They will perceive the situation very differently to the colleague with healthy self-esteem, who might agree that the boss “is a bit of a dick” (for example - ever had one of those bosses?) yet they seem able to deal with them and not get too bothered by their behaviour.
Yet the narcissist boss will be able to skilfully identify which employees their manipulative tactics will work on best - they can tell who has low self-esteem and is therefore vulnerable to them.
And they won’t show their cards, as it were (meaning their manipulative side) to anyone with healthy self-esteem who would be more likely to push back against their behaviour. They want to look good after all. It’s a very covert tactic, the only people who see it will be the vulnerable ones with low self-esteem.
Conclusion.
Talking to someone about your experiences can help you process your feelings and develop strategies for coping with the challenges of working for a narcissistic boss.
However, most people don’t understand the intricate dynamics of narcissism and how it impacts people with low self-esteem, so effective help may be hard to find.
Working for a narcissistic boss can be a challenging experience for anyone, yet it can be a traumatic one for someone with low self-esteem.
Yes it's important to set boundaries, communicate your needs and wants clearly, to seek support when needed but these things are hard to do when you’re so confused and perhaps you don't realise you have low self-esteem.
It's important to remember that you are not responsible for the behaviour of your boss and you have every right to be treated with respect.
But the best way to deal with a narcissistic boss when you have low self-esteem is to work on your low self-esteem so that you are no longer vulnerable to their covert, manipulative tactics.
If you want to see if you are vulnerable to a narcissistic boss, then take self-esteem test is quick, confidential, is completely free and gives you an instant result use this link.
If you find your score is low and you want to understand how to improve your self-esteem, the first step I take my clients through is my short, on-line '12 Days To Decide' programme.
This 12 day Programme helps you to understand why you have low self-esteem, the impact it’s having on your life and what steps you need to take to overcome it. This step only costs £47 and includes direct 1:1 time with me so you get the benefit of my experience - I have even put a money back guarantee in place too, so there's absolutely no risk to you: use THIS LINK for more information.
I hope this has been useful to you.
Loves you boyo
Will
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