What Is Narcissism?

So not only are people with low self-esteem liable to struggle with mental health issues but they are likely to further compound their issues by attracting dominant, controlling relationships into their lives.

So we need to more fully understand the issues associated with low self-esteem whilst also getting our heads around what narcissism is.

Narcissism is a personality disorder characterised by an excessive sense of self-importance, a lack of empathy for others, and a need for admiration. People with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) often feel entitled and superior to others, and may engage in manipulative or exploitative behaviours in order to get what they want.

It can be difficult to notice that you are in a relationship with a narcissist, as they are often charming and charismatic at first and it's near impossible to see their true nature. However, over time, the narcissist's true colours will start to emerge. They become controlling, demeaning, and dismissive of your feelings and needs.

Narcissists may also be prone to anger and have a short fuse, lashing out at others if their ego is threatened or if they don't get what they want. They may also be prone to infidelity and may engage in behaviours that are hurtful or disrespectful to their partner.

Narcissistic abuse refers to a pattern of behaviour in which a narcissistic individual seeks to dominate, control, or exploit their partner or other people in their life. Narcissistic abuse can take many forms, and it is often covert, subtle, and insidious, making it difficult for the victim to identify and acknowledge.

Some common forms of narcissistic abuse in relationships include:

Emotional abuse: This can include gaslighting, which is a form of manipulation in which the abuser manipulates the victim into doubting their own perceptions and memories. It can also involve constant criticism, belittling, and withholding affection.

Physical abuse: This can include physical violence, such as hitting, slapping, or pushing. It can also involve sexual abuse, sexual domination or coercion.

Financial abuse: This can involve the abuser controlling the victim's access to money or assets, or using financial resources as a means of control.

Psychological abuse: This can involve the abuser manipulating the victim's thoughts, beliefs, and behaviours through various means, such as manipulation, coercion, or brainwashing.

Isolation: The abuser may try to isolate the victim from their friends, family, and support networks, in order to gain more control over them.

It's important to note that narcissistic abuse can occur in any type of relationship, not just romantic relationships. It can also occur in friendships, familial relationships, and professional relationships.

Leaving a narcissistic relationship can be challenging, as narcissists often try to hold onto their partners and can become very difficult to deal with when they become threatened. They may try to manipulate or coerce you into staying or they may try to convince you that the problems in the relationship are all your fault. This will be especially difficult for someone with low self-esteem to deal with as they are prone to believing that they are not good enough and that things are indeed, generally their fault.